I know this is not coupon or savings related, but this issue is very important to me and I hope you will indulge me as I share my story.
I am continuing this tradition for myself. There is ALWAYS someone out there that needs help and I will be there for anyone that asks for that help. If you need someone to talk to, CALL ME! If I can’t help you through your challenges, I have an amazing support system and there is SOMEONE that can help you…that has been RIGHT WHERE YOU ARE NOW. Don’t continue to suffer in silence.
On this day eight years ago, I never would have thought that my life would be where it is today. Today, I am married to a man that I love wholeheartedly, and I have been given the opportunity to be a bonus mom and #sistermother, when I thought it would never be a possibility. I have forged new friendships that have greatly helped me through a major struggle and transition into my new life. I have lost friendships that I thought I could never live without, but bonded stronger with the true friends that stood beside me through the dark period. However, I am reminded of 8 years ago today (which seems like a life time ago). I married my best friend in the whole world, my first love, and high school sweetheart. We had known each other for over half of our lives and I was in 7th heaven. If you told me that day that everyone (except my parents) would not be part of my life in less than 4 years, I would have had you committed. If you told me that day that in less than a month my husband would start having “problems” I wouldn’t have believed you. In fact the concept that Chris and I wouldn’t work out was so far out of the realm of possibilities, not just in my mind, but most everyone’s. When we started the divorce process, I was in shock for quite a while (even though I knew it was for the best) and I slowly started to realize that my life would never be the same. I suddenly went from having friends that I had know my entire life, “nieces” and “nephews” that I watched being born and growing up, siblings that lived in the same city as I did…to emptiness. I lost almost every friend I had in town, people that had know me for most of my life, because I was doing what was best for me and “killing” him in the process.
I say all that to say this:
While you do promise to love and cherish, in sickness and in health, there is a difference between loving and cherishing and staying in a marriage that is toxic. To this day I love Chris and I probably always will, despite all the hell he put me through for years, but there is a point that you have to decide what is best for you as a person and there is a difference between love and IN love. There are many forms of illnesses in the world and some of the hardest to deal with are the invisible ones…the ones that most people don’t see. Depression, addiction, bi-polar, etc. these are all invisible illnesses and people don’t understand the hardship that is involved not just for the person that is “sick”, but also their spouses and children. And as with any illness, if you don’t get help (of some kind) you won’t get better. I have heard through the grapevine that Chris is getting better day by day. I hate that it took the dissolving of our marriage for him to finally get the help he needed, but I’m glad he’s finally getting back to the person he used to be.
If you know someone suffering from an invisible illness…if you are married to someone that is…if you are that person yourself, PLEASE ask for help from somewhere. There are resources out there to help you.
But despite all that, I hate that I had to go through the darkness to get to this light. You have to live through the rain to see the rainbow.